A straight male friend recently admitted he doesn’t believe bisexuals can handle monogamy. “If you are attracted to people of both sexes,” he said, “that just doubles the temptation. If you start with the assumption that there are attractive things about maleness and about femaleness (the energy, the body, whatever), and you really like both, who’d want to give up both? It’d be like never eating chocolate again, just to concentrate on vanilla. Even if you had the best vanilla in the world and even if you kind of preferred vanilla most of the time, wouldn’t you want chocolate every once in a while?”
This thing with monosexuals assuming that attraction to/sex with people of different genders must be completely different things and completely different needs, why is that? I’m bisexual, not gay + straight. It’s one sexuality, not two different sexualities operating in the same body without regard for one another. That might be true for some bisexuals/pansexuals/other non-monosexuals, but I don’t experience that and I’m annoyed by monosexuals trying to paint their gender essentialist bullshit all over my feelings.